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Part III in a series by Neil MacQueen This is a "rough draft" of Part III. It will make a lot more sense if you read Parts I and II first. Part I in this series quotes the multitude of research projects into the real life benefits of church attendance. Part II quotes a number of research projects and poll results that knock out the crutches for lame excuses used by church for "where the kids are on Sunday." My main goal in providing articles such as these is to work through and focus my thoughts on subjects which I am interested in knowing more about. That process includes questioning, research, reading, discussion, and finally the process of writing & feedback. My intention is not to prognosticate or pontificate. My goal is to move the discussion forward, in my own mind, and perhaps in those of a few other kindred souls. <>< Neil Suggestions welcome. Email Neil@sundaysoftware.com. Part III in a series on Children's Ministry I begin with EXPANDED versions of the modest proposals with which I concluded Part II in this series....
I should say first that many churches facing difficult challenges ARE doing well, or at least holding their own. My research was not to describe the decline in every church --but mainly to take away the crutches that failing --and even successful churches use to prop up their lack of growth, or lack of desire to change what seems to be working --thus ignoring the future. I've known several educators who have thriving programs, but continue to blame sports or homework as the reason why MORE kids aren't coming. Part II should generally take care of that crutch. There are many reasons why decline can happen in a program. In the past I would have said that the #1 reason is leadership. And that's still somewhat true in MANY churches. They don't have the leaders to do well. And leadership in the church --like it or not, starts at the top --the pastor. If people feel good about the pastor and the direction he/she is leading them, they usually feel good about other opportunities in the church as well. But that's not always so. Try as they might, some churches simply discover that for a variety of reasons, Sunday morning is not primetime for Christian education. A lot of factors go into this. A HABIT of not coming to Sunday morning classes is probably the most prominent. And habits are very difficult to break. I've been in a church that had growing worship attendance, but declining Sunday School attendance. And the children's offerings were great. They just couldn't generate the adult ed interest. And in a small church, there is such a thing as "critical mass." To begin and grow a small group, you need X number of people. Fall below that X number, and the group will fall apart. Groups are cyclical. In a larger church, you can wait out the bottom of the cycle because you still have X number of people coming. But in a small church, when the cycle is down, the group can cease to function. Then there's the "Ecclesiastes 3 Factor" --there's a time and a season for everything. And particularly in a small church, you can't have everything you want blooming at the same time. Not enough energy, leaders and people to go around. Caution: Some people want to give up the ship without a fight. Rather than create a better Sunday morning program, they want to give up. I don't believe in giving up on something until it's been given my best shot. I've also seen poor leadership kill children and volunteer enthusiasm. Recently I was at a school sponsored event where teams of children were being awarded in a science "Olympiad." As various teachers brought the enthusiastic children up front to announce names and awards, I was struck by the range of personalities and number of inappropriate/poor speakers who took the microphone. One leader of children made the parents cringe. You've seen them too. Some programs have a "vibe" about them that is infectious --either positively and negatively. In one of the churches I have been priviledged to serve, our decline was due in part to worn-out leaders from the past still hanging on. So the first thing you will want to do is CHECK THE VIBE. So maybe its the
leadership, or maybe it's just time to do something really different
(but do it well). We are in an era where experimentation is needed. The following guidelines are a first draft. After Parts I and II of this series led people to contact me about more details" I decide to offer a first glance at the notes I've been collecting on the subject of "what the future of ministry to children might need to look like." Please note: I'm not going to explain the obvious, --which is that we are in the business of nurturing faith and biblical literacy. This is about "how" not "what." Characteristics of a new ministry to children: 1. Do less "whole group" programming that is year-round and facility based. This will open up time for other opportunities to go out and be where the kids are. New venues will create new opportunities for interaction and keep us from offering only a classroom based model. (Example: a children's group I know pledged to attend events in which each member was already involved. The group would show up at soccer games to watch individuals play, dances, school competitions, etc.) 2. Think beyond Sunday morning. Organize opportunities to meet a variety of options and schedules. Provide opportunities that have defined start and end dates. Studies show that people find it easier to join newly forming groups, rather than break in to existing ones, and respond to defined lengths of commitment. 3. Create opportunities that include the children's parents at times, rather than viewing parents as "the ride to and from the program." 4. Have a one-on-one component where leaders go where kids live and play. Involve mentors, and youth as role models. 5. Seek to match each child with an opportunity to serve/help in the life of the church. 6. Expand the number of ritual/rites of passage which children/youth can pass through, rather than lumping it all into one Confirmation behemoth. Keep these "rites of passage" easy to participate in (no 10 week courses), but special enough to draw wide interest. 7. Individual churches will shape parts of their ministry to children in ways that capitalize on real strengths -not imagined ones. A real strength in the church might be it's tradition of camping, or service, or the presence of college students, for example. Such strengths present unique opportunities to those churches. 8. Use technology to "data-base" contact information about kids and their activity/interests. No more losing kids through the cracks. 9. Planning meetings will include focusing on the lives and needs of individuals, not just program detail. 10. Develop new standards for measuring success and failure. Five quality encounters a year can have a greater impact than 25 weekly attendances in a classroom. 11. Recognize that some children/youth are ready for exceptional commitment and provide a track for them to follow. (By analogy, schools have found that gifted students need gifted/extra approaches or they drift off). 12. All children's ministry in the future must be equally focused on family ministry, and in particular, encouraging and TRAINING parents to talk about faith in the home and in daily living. 13. Your thoughts here. Neil MacQueen
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